I Used to Be Nice

by Jess Nichol I used to be nice. Quiet, polite, didn’t make ripples. That was me on the outside. But on the inside it was often a different story: frustration, judgment, anger. I worked hard to not let any of that show. At various points in my life I’d learned that...

9 Reasons Authentic Relating Matters

If you’re like most people, you aren’t having the impact you wish you could be having in your relationships, personal or professional, and you aren’t fully enjoying and feeling inspired by the current level of authenticity and richness in your connections.  You might...

I have a community. And I’m in love with it.

by Melody Markel If you know me well, you know that I’ve moved around a lot in the past 20 years (25 times, actually. 25 entrances and exits, 25 hello’s paired with 25 goodbye’s). If you know me ~really~ well, you know that something I’ve longed for all my life is...

Taboos, Communes, & Machine Guns

How do you make ethical judgements in your community? How do we deeply honor where any person in our life is coming from, while maintaining our boundaries and protecting what we care about the most? I’m quite excited to share this recording with you...

3 Essential Practices

This video was recorded in late 2013 for the fundraising campaign to recover from the damages of the massive flood that hit Boulder two months before. This is a great opportunity to understand how the Integral Center came to be as Decker Cunov and Robert MacNaughton...

Heroism of the Heart

We get because we give. Is that a bit too cliché? Well, like most things, it’s cliché for a reason — it’s true. But it’s so much more challenging than it sounds. If we could all get everything that our heart’s desire by giving more, why...

Advocates For Higher Good

When you find yourself judging–and making someone or something wrong–are you wanting them to go away, or are you willing to take some responsibility to actually improve things? In this #Enactment episode with Dr. Keith Witt, we explore a range of topics...

Connection Roadmap: The 3 Levels of Conversation

INTRODUCTION Whether experiencing connections full of love and joy, or navigating challenging interactions, if you’re like me, you’ve found relating with other people one of the most dynamic, rewarding areas of life: A loved one’s eyes light up with gratitude for...

What is “Circling”?

Circling (also known as InterSubjective Meditation) is an organic, in-the-moment interpersonal process that’s equal parts art form, meditation, and group conversation — all designed to allow a visceral experience of connection and understanding of...